I could make a massive list of all the things I’ve been inspired by. Truthfully. It’s been nature. Forms of her. Open air spaces and plants. Flowers blooming and dying. Farmland going from soil to sprouting vegetables. Going on long bike rides to spots I hold sacred, usually near the sea.
Seeing Summer come to life and wanting to bring that forth in my own way has taken me traveling around my home town and my home state during the evenings and weekends rather than writing.
There is also the element of listening, watching and learning that came with Black Out Tuesday and the white-ness surge of Black Lives Matter. I wrote a post for the resources that have helped me immensely and I purchased Hunger by Roxane Gay for her perspective on living in a fat-phobic society. Her writing is captivating – she is also the author of Bad Feminist.
Discussing racism and being anti-racist in a racist society has me thinking about language. Language is a powerful lens. It is one of our primary communication tools. Body language is another. But the words we speak can do much: educate, inspire, connect, harm, evaluate, share. The language we grew up speaking has a profound impact on the way we see the world and the belief system we have about it.
Think of the word “white” and the words associated with it: pure, light, angel, heaven, happiness. Think of the word “black” and the words associated with it: dark, shadow, demons, hate, depression. It is wild to realize the bias built into us from the day we began to speak and form sentences.
Communication is critical to our happiness and success. We must learn to empathize and listen to each other without attacking or taking things personally. I was introduced this year to Marshall Rosenberg’s work of Nonviolent Communication – A Language of Life. The tagline of the book is,
“Words matter. Find common ground with anyone, anywhere, at any time, both personally and professionally.”
NVC is endorsed by Deepak Chopra, Tony Robbins, Marianne Williamson and many others.
There are types of communication (violent ones) that block compassion and frame situations that place blame on everyone else but ourselves. Non-violent communication is a guide to use language for authentic collaboration where each person takes responsibility for their feelings while observing the needs of others without judgement.
Some people have a natural ability to communicate effectively. Other’s don’t. If you feel like you are constantly misunderstood or struggling to connect with others, I suggest you pick up this book. Hint: EVERY person should read this book.
As I demonstrated above, you are likely using language in a way that causes harm OR is violent, without being aware of it. I believe NVC can be a powerful tool to help everyone understand our personal and historical past in order to create a just and equal society for the future.
I’ve also been studying sugar quite a bit.
I wanted to better understand my chocolate and peanut butter cravings (for myself and my clients) – biochemically and psychologically. I also needed a reminder about sneaky sugar marketing in the United States and how it can throw ANYONE off – even the healthy do-gooders who read labels and shop at Whole Foods.
Ali Shapiro’s Insatiable podcast is my latest walking companion obsession. Her season 11 is entirely dedicated to ‘SUGAR REHAB‘ and I am learning so much. This episode about the Sugar-Anxiety Feedback Loop with Dr. Ellen Vora, MD was incredible.
Ali’s opening for this podcast is,
“Join us … where we explore the hidden aspects of fighting our food, our weight and our bodies, and dive deep into nutrition science, and true whole health. This is not your parent’s healthcare, this is a big rebel yell to those who crave meaning, hunger for truth, and whose lust for life is truly insatiable – freedom awaits.”– Ali Shapiro, Insatiable
I know so many of my friends and followers deal with the same struggles with food and the body – Ali’s podcast has shined such a light on what is underneath it all for me: overwork and loneliness.
What do I do when I feel overworked and super lonely? Cue that song. I watch Netflix! Still a sticky habit for me that I don’t want to demonize because I’ve learned a lot on Netflix, aight?
Not all is lost because it brought me to watch The Call to Courage by Brené Brown. This talk brought me to tears many times. Also watching her captivate and connect with a room full of people is always a sight to see. 5 billion stars for BB.
She shares the story of how “The Man in the Arena” quote by Theodore Roosevelt came to her. An act of God that saves her from a “vulnerability hangover.” This quote led her to write the book Daring Greatly and dig deeper into what it means to be courageous.
Prioritize watching this and you will not be disappointed.
Summer is the height of pitta season. The days are long with the sun rising early and setting later – so I am loving all the things I can accomplish and all the places to see!
But that is exactly it – slowing down during this season is hard but crucial to balancing out the fire and heat that come with it. People who have pitta imbalances already might feel intense, heightened emotions at this time of the year. Anxiety might spike, overwhelm can occur, overwork or trying to jam in TOO much in the day might be a daily battle. Speaking from experience!
I know this is true for me. I need to intentionally slow down. Cozying up on the couch in the middle of winter feels natural, but the same activity in summer is counterintuitive. I strive to enjoy every moment of daylight! And if you’re anything like me, you are using the great weather to travel around Maine, move outside, or take long hikes.
This is all SO good for our minds and bodies – but notice if you start to feel run down. Remember that relaxation remains just as important to compliment all the fun and exploration.
If you feel a little lost with the pitta tangent, but you are curious, download my Design your Day by the Dosha free resource.
In this 4 page document you will get:
- an introduction to each dosha (pitta, vata, kapha),
- what signals healthy and out of balance doshas,
- activities to bring them back into balance,
- a template to structure the day by the doshas,
- and several more resources to get you started on your Ayurveda journey.
Finally, I’m excited to share that Liz Merci is on pinterest now! More ways to connect and learn with me. Follow my boards for more insight into the tools and approaches I use in the self-healing journey to self acceptance, joy and abundance. Let’s play on pinterest!
I hope your start to the summer is nourishing and joyful.
There is so much to be grateful for. There is so much to learn. There is so much possibility for a better future.
Have faith & keep going.
XO + OM